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Well I think that’s it for me. I’ve been dealing with hocd for a while and these last two weeks have been the absolute hell I feel depressed and scared all the time. And today my worst fear has been realized, I think Im there is a valid chance bi. I am getting groinal movements and even almost full erections. I don’t want to be attracted to men I don’t want to have these images they make me uncomfortable and sick. I especially never want to ever touch another man in anyway but I guess I can’t control this anymore. I’m gonna try and get out of this but I’m just so scared and especially sad. Something always feels off I want it to just end man.

Any advice from someone who’s got passed the groinal response?

Does anyone ever get so fed up and confused that they get so confused with the idea of attraction? Like I’m sitting here thinking why are people even attracted to people? Why are my mum and dad attracted to each other? How do men like women and women like men and whatever else? I don’t know why my thoughts go like this sometimes.

so-ocd tw also sorry this is so long last night i was talking with a friend of mine who is a lesbian and honestly it was very triggering. she was explaining her internalised homophobia and stuff, and how it’s led her to resent boys because they can simply like girls without any judgement, but she has to be an ‘outsider’ (her words) for it. it was sad to hear. and it made me anxious. i get turned on by boobs and i won’t deny that. and i often feel very ashamed for it. i worry it’s creepy and weird and wrong for my friends. in addition to that, i begin to feel like i can’t be straight because of it. it’s like i see women as inherently more sexual than guys (probably because i was exposed to porn quite young and it became a little unhealthy at some points). i’m worried i envy my straight guy friends for liking boobs with no shame. on a whole other note though, i’m honestly okay with the idea of being bisexual. infact, as an exposure, i came out to my friends as bi in march. and they didn’t care at all. i don’t know for sure if i actually am bi. like i said, i find women sexually ‘appealing’ but i’ve always found boys dreamy and attractive. and i’ve always wanted to date or marry a guy. what hurts is i’m now scared im 100% lesbian and i don’t like guys. it feels like a huge part of me has been ripped out. and it’s like i just have to accept it, or be filled with shame like my friend is. another thing is that whenever i’ve kissed boys it’s really sucked. like it’s just felt super uncomfortable and unhygienic. so now if a guy wants to kiss me, i feel grossed out. then i begin to imagine a GIRL kissing me, and it feels clean and stuff? which i hate. this feels like definite proof that i don’t like guys. it just makes me feel so empty. two nights ago i was fantasising all day about my (male) crush, and literally all i wanted was to be next to him again. yet now i feel like a closeted lesbian. i hope it’s just ocd. thanks if you read :)

Has anyone watched Chuck?

Hi, hope everyone is having an ok day. I wanted to throw the question out there to see if anyone has shared this similar experience (yes this may be a compulsion, but I am desperate right now and don’t know where else to turn to.) So my main theme started as POCD a few weeks ago after learning more about OCD. I would have frequent HOCD thoughts, but usually disregarded them as POCD were more disturbing (weird, but true) and distressing to me in the moment. Now, within the last few days, my themes have changed to 85% HOCD and I am thinking about all sorts of things and then placing myself in jail for “committing “ these crimes. It is absolutely driving me bonkers and messing with my ability to function. I had a hysterical Crying attack earlier where I felt like this was never going to end and I was hopeless. P.S. I believe I have had OCD for many years, but it has not been this heightened before. Any advice or similarities? Thanks you guys.

Are there any ways that I can make sure that I am actually straight? I am not homophobic but I just hate it when I have the gay thoughts in my head. It is just not me. I feel like I am losing myself. I cried a lot. I was scared and depressed. Please help me.

So basically I'm on the brink of saying to my parents I'm not straight. But I dont feel like there's going to be any relief ?. I don't get it ?

Does anyone here have OCD and ADHD? If so, how could you tell you had ADHD and that it wasn’t just avoidance of stressors or compulsions mimicking the same behavior? I have contamination OCD and social anxiety but lately I’ve been questioning if I also have ADHD because I’ve been seeing a lot of mental health pages talking about their experiences with ADHD and I really relate to a lot of their posts. I want to bring it up with my therapist but I didn’t want to seem like I’m shopping for symptoms and he didn’t catch it before when I did the super intensive survey thing before I started my intensive outpatient program. But I am a female in my mid-20s and I was a “gifted-kid” (who is really struggling now) so I don’t know if maybe that is skewing the perception of me. Any advice? I am truly lost here.

How do people cope with a lack of support at home? One of my ocd themes is contamination and I sometimes have very very dry hands that are really noticeable and people will comment on them. My dad doesn’t really “believe” in mental illness despite all my diagnoses and appointments with specialists, I’ve been diagnosed with ocd for eight years now. He is very against medication and when I was taking it, he’d ask every day if I was still using it, would I ever stop taking it, when will I stop taking it, etc. so I just ceased it myself to keep him quiet and he was so glad when I did. Tonight he said that my hands looked awful, I need to stop washing them, I need to stop using so much soap. He’s brought this up many times these past few weeks but today I just burst into tears. I told him he’s not the one who has to deal with them, I’m the one who’s in physical pain every time I move them, that I don’t enjoy washing my hands so often, and that he never even tried to understand what it’s been like all these years. I’ve pretty much accepted that this will be something I’ll always struggle with. When I’m medicated I feel a little better, I can often challenge the urge to wash my hands but as I said he hates the idea of medication as well. I can’t win. I’m sorry for the lengthy post, I’m tired and sad and I don’t have anyone to talk to. I’ve had the worst week at work and this has tipped me over the edge.

Does anyone else's hocd make them think like they want to be with the same sex?

When I have my obsessive thought I try to turn my focus on something else. Even If I manage to distract my mind, I still have the obsessive thought in the background, feels like its stuck in my mind. Is someone else dealing with this? How do you manage to "unstuck" ? I try to think sometimes of a comedian doing funny sounds everytime the thought gets in my guts. But I dont know If its good the replace the thought

I just want to rant about my struggles with OCD. Sometimes my thoughts are about harming me or someone else it's been my main freak out. Since for a week I can't stop seeing terrible images. I can't eat or sleep properly since it's been going on. I can't even draw anymore due to the thoughts. I panic so badly I'm going numb I start to feel emotionless until I obsess over my thoughts I feel my emotions come back. Since I've been fighting with myself to stop it. I feel like it's toxic around my family members since they have to put up with me and my panic attacks. I feel like my sister is giving up on me she's been helping me fight it for four years now. I don't blame here for wanting to take a break away from me. I'm at a state where I believe that I'm my bad thoughts that I'm lying to others that I'm not this disgusting person. That I'm a manipulator it scares me. I'm at a battle that I'm not. I don't believe it since for a few months back I was happy with better thoughts even though it was poking at me I had better control. Now I'm constantly freaking out and crying mostly everyday. I can't stop them making me believe that I want to be like this. I just want everything to be normal again I want to be happy the way I used to be. My imagination is no longer a place for me to be happy to being corrupted by bad thoughts. My interest in things I like or doing is also leaving me. I feel lifeless most of the time until I fixate on the bad. I also been pulling out my hair I just picked up this habit a few days ago. When I had my first panic attack about bad thoughts I never done this. It seems to get worst over the years. I don't want to be stuck like this I kept trying to move forward but I keep getting trapped into this endless cycle of darkness. I had good thoughts I was being motivated by them but in a few minutes I started to worry about the bad again. I can't get help by an actual therapist since I'm poor and can't afford the treatment here, every place that is near me aren't accepting new patients. I can't go out of town to get help since it's also too expensive. I feel trapped, allowing this to lose my goals that I want to achieve in life. Sorry if this is too long or repetitive. I feel a little better typing out my thoughts.

Can someone tell me if you can get used to depersonalization/derealization? I don't remember what normal feels like so I doubt Ill ever feel like that again.

I'm really hurt. Can I talk to someone please?

My health related OCD has been so bad. I I'm trying an online 12-week program focus just on health anxiety but stopping myself from compulsively checking my body has been so difficult. Physical sensations are common and I have an 11-month-old that is such an energetic joy but physically demanding. Even though I know there are rational reasons to a lot I'm so sick of being scared of my body and being afraid to do simple things like my daily showers looking in the mirror etc.... Pretty much almost every time I touch my body I'm scanning for illness. I don't know if there are certain types of therapy other than ERP or avenues for health-related OCD. If anyone has any advice it would surely be appreciated. I don't want my daughter growing up seeing me compulsively check all the time.

Hey there! Committing myself to getting the help I need. I’ve had a lot of break up urges (first thing in the morning to last thing at night) from the very beginning of my this new long distance relationship I’m in. From the beginning their feeling towards me have been a lot more full on than mine from them, but I feel subconsciously/under the blanket of constant worries and doubts that I can grow with them and have a good time. I’ve visited them in person, which went pretty well but thoughts were still there, and they will soon visit me, but this in-between time has lead to a lot of anxiety. If I “take a step back” I realize how I’ve gone from one 24/7 thought to another for several years now all related to my identity and how i interact with others. The person of question also has a history of symptoms similar to mine, so they have a lot of empathy, but there’s also the chances of it turning into a mess. Should I continue to step into the deep end? I’m also hoping to get a therapist specializing in erp but who has a more holistic view of things as well. A lot of resources on rocd have helped (they may seem a bit “hippy dippy” but they also have allowed me to reflect on issues with our culture and media and how they promote black and white thinking). The thought of being just friends with the person in question is persistent, but I also want to continue to develop something deeper and not live in anxiety, especially as they get me in a way no one else does and there’s something magical about that. Why can’t my brain allow me to just go with the flow? I have little glimpses here and there into “what could be.” Why not continue to give it a try for a reason other than anxiety?

I don't believe in God and I know it's all scientifically not true but a few days ago I prayed (even tho I don't believe in God and know not religious) and right after something very good happened so now I'm scared if the praying stuff actually worked like what the actual fuck that is crazy and I know that makes no sense because it's scientifically not possible but now I prayed again and now I'm scared that something good will happen again because that "proves" That it actually works

Help someone is this hocd or not. Sometime I feel as tho I'm being forced into this 😔

I could use some advice, maybe from multiple people. This isn't exactly OCD related but anxiety and mental health related and I didn't know where else to go for for advice. So basically recently my sister got into a relationship and she is 16 and old enough for one so its nothing to do with her and her bf, it more has to do with me. I'm 20 and in college and haven't dsteddated anyone yet. It hurts sometimes to think about and it seems my mom is always bringing up my sister's bf and telling people she has one, etc and it honestly makes me feel awful about myself. I am really afraid my mom or other family members think I am a freak for never having a bf. I really want to talk to my mom about and just tell her what's on my heart and how I feel like a weirdo for never having a relationship. But i didn't know if this would be a form of reassurance seeking or if it would make things worse bc I've been trying to just play it off like i don't care and stuff so i don't know if I'll regret talking to her or if it would just be weird. Any advice would be appreciated. Sorry for the long random post