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Someone please help me . I’m so tired of this gender identity thing . I did a compulsion and googled gender dysphoria symptoms and I had a panic attack . One of the articles said that sometimes children with gender dysphoria say that they are bi to suppress that they are trans and I remember when I was little I did think that I liked girls once but then I got older and realized I don’t but now I just don’t know . I took a self assessment test to see if I have gender dysphoria and it says that I don’t but then idk if I was lying or not and when I see articles on symptoms of people with trans ocd I know it sound just like me and that being a man dosnt align with who I am but then I feel like I’m lying about that too . Then it’s what if I’m non bianary ? What if I get used to the thoughts and I start to actually be comfortable as a boy ? I feel like I can’t do anything , I can’t be a mom , I can’t be a gf , I can’t be a friend a daughter and can’t do anything . I feel defeated and sad . I don’t want to be trans but it feels like I have no choice and I can’t take that I will never know if this is ocd or who I really am and it’s starting to feel like this is who I am and it makes me sad . No one around me understands and I feel like I’m putting to much on my friends and family with all of this. I just want it to stop

Is it a goodthing I don't get those POCD intusitive thoughts as much, I get them every once awhile but not crazy? I just acknowledged them and keep going, ist that good and what I'm supposed to do?

now it feels like i want to be gay :( it feels like if i stop resisting i''ll turn out to be gay. guys i swear this is denial there's no way it isn't. even writing this i feel nothing, no anxiety. i can't do this anymore is this ocd? i don't feel repulsed by the idea of being gay anymore:( can someone please just tell me if this is denial or ocd??

I just want to fall in love with women again. I'm lost. And my dad said are you just trying to convince yourself you like them. But I know I did growing up etc and even when this began 😔

Can trauma cause OCD (Physical, mental)

Do you guys think it could be an OCD thing for me to constantly be googling if I'm weird or abnormal for never having had a boyfriend yet at 20? I am always feeling bad about it and googling to see what people say or to find others in the same situation

Does anyone else keep reminding themselves that: “it’s just HOCD” numerous times in their heads when the thoughts and feelings are so real? Well I’m having a hard time sleeping rn cause of it.

So I go back to college next week over 300 miles away from my home and I am so scared I’m not gonna be able to do it. My mom is like my comfort person and I feel like she keeps me sane and I’m so worried I’m gonna go to college, not have her and completely lose control. It terrifies me and I feel like I shouldn’t go. Idk what to do. I have to go because my parents put a lot of Money into this, but I’m so terrified of who I’ll turn into.

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what do i do my anxiety and thoughts have gotten 10x worse and idk what to do. i haven't even gotten diagnosed yet so i cant say i have ocd. i try to talk about it with my sister and she'll say "stop self diagnosing yourself you don't even know if you have it" when she doesn't even know half the things that go on in my head and all the things i do daily to prove to myself i'm not gross. but i still feel like i am disgusting and a horrible person.

Hi everyone. I wanted to share my story here and give some insight on my treatment of NOCD thus far. I am currently in my mid twenties. When I was just a kid in second grade, I had bad thoughts about my family (mostly my mom). I always had the image of my mom getting into an accident in my head and my teacher had to call home and tell my mom I was upset over this. I "needed" to make sure all was well. I also felt guilt as a child for other intrusive thoughts. After these thoughts went away, my obsessive thoughts slowly became about someone I liked.. or even just someone I was attracted to that I did not know. I became obsessed with them to the point I couldn't think about anything else. I daydreamed and wish the person would be with me, even if I didn't know them. I figured after years of dealing with this, I googled my symptoms. I came across something that is an unofficial diagnosis of OCD. It is called obsessional love disorder. Most of it hit the nail on the head but some didnt relate entirely. Wanting to control the person of interest, or even trying to get them to notice me or like me, even if I did or didn't know them. And if they didnt like me, my self-esteem would be shot. I felt hopeless like no one could ever love me. I called myself ugly so many times and doubted my worth over people I didnt even know. The compulsions are checking their social media, googling them constantly (figuring out everything about them) and most of all, ruminating about "what ifs" around the person. I would cry over all my "crushes" but never told a soul about this my entire life... until this year. After years of this being a secret, I finally opened up to my mom about my thoughts. It made me feel a lot better, and it makes me feel comfort there are people out there willing to understand OCD and our way of thinking. I decided to get treatment for it, because this is no way to live... and I know compared to others this doesnt seem as extreme but I also deal with some intrusive thoughts as well that involve anything under the umbrella of ocd. This treatment has helped me learn more about ERP and it is challenging. This isn't something you are going to be able to do right away, and I'm still learning how to do it. My therapist is an amazing human being and has helped me, even if at times it can be quite alarming to face these fears head on. I would recommend anyone dealing with OCD to try this treatment, or save money to do it. If you cant, I will say that the main concept is to accept the uncertainty of your thoughts. "Maybe that will happen, maybe it wont" It does help, but it takes practice and I'm still learning. If you are looking into other therapy or programs, make sure it is only catered towards OCD. I highly recommend NOCD. There is hope for you, and everyone out there with OCD. It has truly helped me. Dont give up.

i haven't been sure about anything lately but now i am pretty sure i am gay in denial. is this me or the ocd talking?

I was doing okay but am I becoming sucidal??? I just said I don't wanna live like this with these thoughts but it feels like Im gonna go die but I don't want to my heart is beating fast cause I'm scared I'll end up killing myself I don't want to but my mind makes me feel like I will. I don't wanna have the thought to kill myself! Am I depressed? Or just confused I know I was just confused like what if I never make it in life. Or is it my upcoming period making me feel like this?

When I watch porn i go to the younger category and think to myself maybe im a pedophille, i am trying to stop but i feel like i like younger looking men but am scared that pedophillia is attached to it, like what if one day i want more or what if this is what i like? Does anyone else go through this?

All of the sudden, I started thinking I don't like my partner anymore, it took me awhile to understand that love is not about feelings, but now that I don't stress about that, I started having intrusive thoughts about liking my best friend (a boy, and I'm a lesbian, or at least, I think I am...). Is this normal? I can hardly enjoy time with both of them, I spend all day thinking about I like him and I should leave my partner, but not to be with my friend, just to stop feeling that I pretend to love her. This is making my life hell, I can't imagine being with someone else than my partner, I literally want to die.

If I'm understanding ERP correctly, it's not doing ANYTHING that would help soothe you, right? In my case I'll have a thought > usually I'll have my husband check things for me, if no-one is around to check things for me, I'll say to myself (in my head or out-loud) "I would never do xyz" "I didn't even get up from where I was, if I did I would've remembered walking to and from" (just examples). These are all compulsions, right? So I can't even mentally soothe myself. If I'm going to do ERP correctly, how do y'all stop the mental compulsions?

Hi, I’m new here but wanted to take the leap and try this out. I have had OCD since about 4 years old. Right now I’m having a hard time and would appreciate hearing from other people who go through what I do to help me feel a bit better because I always feel like no one around me gets what I go through. I have been with my partner for 10 years with lots of crazy ups and downs, probably more than your average relationship. My fiancé used to be a heroin addict at the time we met, but for awhile I had no idea. Later on of course it came out because something like that is hard to conceal for a long period of time. Anyways, during the whole thing was traumatizing, he made horrible decisions but we were so good and compatible with one another when drugs weren’t ruining everything so he finally went to rehab to get better for himself, his son, & I after 2 years of having enough. He healed and did all the work and has been clean and sober for almost 5 or 6 years now. I was left though with a lot of trauma and OCD triggers and when we began our relationship again with him sober I was in a depressed state & scared because I was so afraid he would relapse and I worried and worried myself to death that our lives would go back to how bad it was when he was at his worst. Now I wake up every morning with anxiety because somedays I will have a hard time feeling while I’m with him due to depression or anxiety, I’m hoping, and I start to flip out that I might be falling out of love. I even had a therapist say “maybe you just need to accept it” not understanding ROCD. That caused me to have even more anxiety and be worse ever since. So just curious if anyone else goes through long stages of numbness or not being attracted due to depression, anxiety or OCD with the person your with. It makes me feel SO guilty all day everyday because I don’t think it’s my OCD, my brain keeps thinking it’s me and I fell out of love. :(

Well I think that’s it for me. I’ve been dealing with hocd for a while and these last two weeks have been the absolute hell I feel depressed and scared all the time. And today my worst fear has been realized, I think Im there is a valid chance bi. I am getting groinal movements and even almost full erections. I don’t want to be attracted to men I don’t want to have these images they make me uncomfortable and sick. I especially never want to ever touch another man in anyway but I guess I can’t control this anymore. I’m gonna try and get out of this but I’m just so scared and especially sad. Something always feels off I want it to just end man.

Any advice from someone who’s got passed the groinal response?

Does anyone ever get so fed up and confused that they get so confused with the idea of attraction? Like I’m sitting here thinking why are people even attracted to people? Why are my mum and dad attracted to each other? How do men like women and women like men and whatever else? I don’t know why my thoughts go like this sometimes.