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I’m really freaking out because I went in a pizza place to pick up an order and the cashier looked younger than 18 and I had an intrusive thought not really sure if it was intrusive I’m hoping it was, saying she was hot. I thought she was pretty hopefully that’s not weird I don’t mean it to be but I just feel so weird and guilty now…I’m really hoping it’s just ocd and not a real opinion

Hi there I feel very hopeless all the time and I wanted to know if there was anyone out there who feels the same . It all started when I had a dream about kissing a girl and from then on I obsessed thought and thought and thought and having no break from it and I can’t do it anymore it’s not fair I can’t just accept it because I have no feeling towards girls at all and I feel all my attraction is blocked . This has taken over my life every time I’m not home I panic and wanna go home and every time I’m home I panic and wanna leave I cry every day and panic the thoughts are so real but I don’t want any of it am I crazy am I denial I have nothing against gays or I have never been homophobic but I just cant accept that I am because all it is is thoughts nothing more I just feel like everyday the same and I just don’t wanna deal with this anymore I’m begging anyone to give advice or relate I just can’t accept these thoughts cause I know how I feel I always loved boys I never question till the dream and now I just feel nothing and I hate it I just wanna be happy with my bf and not deal with this anymore I feel alone and it’s a everyday event and I am drained

Has anyone ever had moments where it felt like you were certain you didn’t want to be with them or love them but then you notified yourself still arguing with that? I’ve been struggling with feeling like this off and on and like I am in denial. It kind of happened when I was dealing with SO-OCD as well.

New here and hoping having a community to share things with will help me gain some perspective and calm my anxiety. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, he’s struggled a lot with depression and alcohol use over the last year however he’s saying he hasn’t used alcohol to cope in over a month, and I know he is truly trying. If I get a text from him that seems “off” I start obsessing over if he has been drinking or if he’s smoked weed (which isn’t a big deal but for some reason when it’s him it’s a big deal to me), if I’m on the phone with him and he sounds “off” I begin to obsess as well. Realistically there’s nothing tangible that should make me think he isn’t sober. When I’m obsessing I will ask him several times if he’s drank or smoked and he gets so frustrated but I need so much reassurance and I get so worried. On top of that we’ve both been stressed and very busy lately so I’ve been constantly asking myself if I’m happy, if I really love him, if our relationship is actually good, if this is the right guy for me, because we just haven’t been able to spend any real quality time together recently. I feel horrible and so guilty for thinking these things and trying to figure out if I actually feel them or if I’m just making stuff up. There have been times like this before and then it feels like my feelings of love are back and I say to myself, next time this happens remember how you actually feel, you know you love him so much. I hate feeling like I’m constantly waiting for the moment when I feel like everything is “back to normal”, and I can’t help but think that’s an aspect of OCD too.

I feel like sometimes I could do these thoughts feelings and I should come out maybe I don't know. I just can't imagine doing these things? 😞

My health related OCD has been so bad this morning. It's not even 9:00 a.m. and I've already spent 2 hours compulsively checking my temperature my rib upper abdomen area my arms, under my chin. I don't know how to stop it and it's really bad this morning if anyone has any help I need it

Can ocd make you remember stuff that happened in the past ? Like rn I’m not sure if I sexualized or looked at a child in a sexual way in the past or If I got aroused seeing a pic of a kid.. bc I do remember when I would like see a post of a kid and I remember feeling a type of way? But I don’t really remember how I felt looking at the picture and idk if this is suppressed pedophila :/ it really feels like I did in the past I think idk I can’t navigate how it really was moslty the feeling or what I said in my head like idk 😭😭😭 UGHH WHY.

I was crying in the hall ways at school and no one came to help? Does that mean no one cared and we live in a selfish world

Ok so I really need some advice. A while back I told my mom about my ocd, very briefly. She is very supportive, and we have an amazing relationship. Over the past year I would say my ocd has gotten progressively worse. I am struggling a lot recently, my thoughts are taking over. I really think it’s time I get some professional help, but I can’t work up the courage to say.(I’m under 18) therefore I can’t just get a therapist myself, meaning I have to ask her. I know she would do anything for me, I mean my brother has some metal illness but he HAD to get professional help because it was recommended due to bad depression. Anyway, the one thing that’s stoping me is the fact that she is so caring for her kids that when I tell her, her heart is gonna break,I know as a mom she is gonna be hurt, but knowing she is gonna be hurt is gonna hurt me. I’m also afraid she’s gonna so about my thoughts, and that I know is gonna break her, and to be honest I just don’t know if I’m comfortable talking about it with her. I’m struggling so much right now. Any advice to make it easier? I’ll take anything I can get.

I’m struggling right now. I felt better last night and earlier today about the mistake I made again last night. Now, however, as I am sitting out here in the living room with my family the guilt is growing and I am having a hard time not ruminating about it. A part of me wants to confess but I don’t think I ever could because it’s too embarrassing and humiliating. I don’t know why but seeing my family seems to make my mistakes come to the forefront of my mind.

+18 only please Can I just talk to someone who deals with sexual OCD? Or someone who has a hard time dealing with sexual shame? Anyone?

I hate this, why is no one commenting on my post an I invisible??

Dp/Dr tips?? Ivr been struggling a lot with this (I think)

it's like now i am okay with being gay? no panic?????

I’m searching for a boyfriend. Which is an obsession of mine. I finally am supposed to meet a guy for coffee next weekend. I should be elated but I’m anxious. This is because I am in love with a celebrity. I’m afraid I’ll have to stop loving the celebrity and stop thinking about him if I have a boyfriend.

Does anyone else get super upset and have their entire day thrown off if one little thing goes not according to plan? This morning I woke up super happy and excited to get stuff done today. But long story short I thought a meeting I was looking forward to was at 10am but it was actually at 9am so I missed it. And now I have not been able to do any of the other things I was excited for and it’s been a few hours. I’m just sitting on the couch frozen. I have no inspiration or motivation now and I hate that this one tiny mishap triggered me into this. Curious if others experience this and if you think it’s OCD related. Thanks!

i just came accross a reel that was like "the book of answers" where you ask a question and the person opens a page with the supposed answer, and so i wanted to ask if i was gay but then i went "but last time you came accross something like this they said yes" and so the answer was "yes but don't force it". why am i not panicking??????

OCD, Covid, and making new friends. Covid and I have had a rocky relationship that has only gotten worse, even after being vaccinated. I spent all of August trapped inside my own head, terrified that the littlest itchy throat or runny nose would mean I had Covid and could spread it to others. Things got better once I sat with the uncertainty; September, so far, has been wonderful. Even last night, I was thinking about how Covid and how if I hear someone cough I'm not bothered nearly as much. Until today. I wake up, going to meet someone new. My brain tries to tell me i'll catch Delta, i'll catch Covid and spread it, i'll have to take time off to be sick, i'll have to get tested, my week will be ruined. I tell my brain, I'm vaccinated. We're outside. I've met new people before in the same situation and haven't gotten Covid. I am willing to take this risk. I am not going to be afraid anymore. I meet up with this potential new friend. She coughs a little, I think nothing of it, perhaps some saliva went down the wrong pipe. Then she tells me she has a scratchy throat from yelling at work the past two days and "doesn't think she's sick", but also says she's going to go home and drink water and rest. I shut down while at the same time trying to assume the best in people. That's a valid conjecture, right? Voice overuse can make your throat really hurt, so I stick it out for the 45 minutes we are together, trying not to come off as being ABSOLUTELY terrified. I'm vaccinated. I'm outside. It doesn't help the storm building in my brain. I come home. I tell my roommate, who is a realist about my constant Covid anxiety. "If you get sick, you get sick, and there's nothing you can do about it." I call my mom "You'll be okay. She just had a scratchy throat. Don't worry over nothing." And yet, I make the reminder on my phone to get Covid tested on Thursday because that's 5 days after what could have been an exposure because that's what's on the CDC website for vaccinated people, because this potential new friend COULD have it. She could. And prepare myself for a week of depression, panic, confessing to everyone I see at work, at my DREAM job no less, that I hung out with someone with a scratchy throat for 45 minutes to be sure I am doing enough to protect myself, to protect others. Just like August, just like July, just like May. Or, not saying anything and feeling awful because should I? Shouldn't I? How do I make this cycle end? How do I keep my happiness despite Covid looming all around? How do I make new friends with this constant intense fear? How do I draw lines between my moral OCD and confessing and doing what if the best to keep Covid at bay? How do I not break down at the idea of searching once again for the perfect therapist for hours, when I just left an amazing therapist that I took months who isn't licensed to practice in my new location? Just a ramble I guess. Maybe someone can see this and relate, maybe someone has advice. Just putting this all out there. Hope everyone else is doing okay.

I will not accept such a thing to happen, I will not accept anything to interfere with my physical and mental integrity because I believe that anything that is not natural can permanently change my state of health. By no means do I want to convey that I recommend for the mother to be inactive. I prefer to be constantly sad and try to work it out through cognitive behavioral therapy rather than putting chemical reactions in my body. Ultimately it is my right which concerns my own health and because I know very well the interests of psychiatrists I consider that such a thing is not necessary for me at the moment.From the testimonies of friends of acquaintances and online friends, I am fully informed about the symptoms and side effects. I inform you it will be many more than I would have had without the drugs. Initially migraine headaches bone pain or discomfort are just a few of them. Not to mention behavioral personality changes, the feeling of emptiness, the difficulty in love and in understanding situations, compassion and humanity. So you understand that this is one of the most important issues that will ever concern me because I do not accept anyone to change my characteristics to get rid of stress.These side effects never go away because they are no longer chemical reactions, they are not emotions that come and go but it is something chemical that has intervened in health and there is no going back. It is 100% true and proven all these years that the use of antidepressants leads the person to addiction

So the game didn’t go how I expected with my friends but our team won tho, I just felt left out and judged by one of my friends in our friend group I felt like she was judging me and seeing me in a different way like if she was suspicious of me :( idk if it’s bc of when I liked a guy who was one year younger than me and she said something like “you like younger dudes kat?” But my other friend didn’t take it seriously she thought it was a joke but this was like a few months ago so that’s why I’m thinking if it’s something I said or if acted a certain way bc I also felt kinda left out too and felt like she was closer to my other friend more than me :/ idk I feel like I’m being dramatic or too sensitive abt it but I do get friend jealous or just feel left out and isolated if I don’t feel like included especially if I’m like kinda trying but idk whatever I’ll just get over it ig 😭 I hate conflict so I might keep it to myself and not tell her abt it. I just feel like maybe I don’t have a right to be defensive bc what if that makes me a pedo and I’m denying it? Like my abuser would say stuff to me abt how like he wouldn’t do anything to me and stuff like “I’m not gonna do anything, you’re acting like I’m gonna do something to you !” And idk if I’m the same way :( I really hate this. Omg this is soo long sorry y’all but if you read it then “🥺❤️‍🩹” I love you but I honestly just feel alone in this theme sometimes and I feel better to vent here 😭 but I don’t mean to always like get attention but I just- idk I hardly ever feel listened to when I open up abt my true feelings so yah 😅 haha I’m done now 🧍🏽‍♀️