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When i think so much and then say all this thinking means something cause it feels so real do i even try to fight with it saying no?!? Its not or cross questioning sometimes i just don’t i like am okay with it kinda accept it and if i do that what does that mean cause if I don’t believe in it why would I accept it and not fight it and have a problem. They feel too real to fight sometimes its like lying to oneself but if i say or feel that does that mean I believe in what i am denying?!? What does that mean then?!? My brain is so foggy and constantly confused idk what to think and what not…

I’ve been crying so much lately and I don’t know why. I didn’t have many symptoms these past few weeks and although I encountered some triggers over the weekend, and I am having thoughts that I don’t like, it feels like the crying and anxiety (it’s also not as crippling as it usually is when I have a flare up) is related to the fear of my ocd getting bad again. And every time I have an intrusive thought, I immediately check how I’m responding to the thought. I try to figure out whether or not it’s a lapse. Then I start thinking about how terrible I felt when I was going through an intense ocd episode and it just brings me to tears thinking about how much pain I was in. I did an ERP exercise with my therapist today and I didn’t feel as much anxiety as I expected to and I don’t know if it’s because my ocd has switched themes or what is going on in my head right now. I feel very confused. Sorry this is so long…

So when a thought comes up is the goal to ignore it and go on with your life? I'm new to this kind of therapy.

Relationship OCD is taking over my life and ruining my relationship. Has anyone been through something similar? Looking for advice/support as I am really struggling right now. After months of constant doubts regarding my partner of 4 years and our relationship, I decided to leave him and take a break for right now. I am so sad because I love him so much and we have a great relationship overall. However, my nonstop thoughts about whether we are sexually compatible were getting to be too much. I believe my perceived “need” for sex may also be partially OCD related. I do have a very high sex drive and feel as though I need to have sex every day or ideally at least 4-5x per week in order to feel good and improve my mood. I mean, I know sex makes everyone feel good. But I feel like I can’t be truly happy unless I am in a relationship where I have sex very frequently. I keep track of how many times per week/month I have sex and get upset when I see it hasn’t been a lot. I am unable to distinguish whether I just have a very high sex drive or whether this is anxiety/ocd driven, but I think it’s both. I get very anxious as the day goes on and my partner still has not initiated sex. I become frustrated with him and resentful. He can sense my anxiety and frustration which turns him off even more, which makes sex even less frequent and thus makes me feel even worse. It really is a vicious cycle. This is the reason I decided to leave. I feel as though he is just not sexual enough for me. Other than the sex issue, our relationship is good. I am paralyzed by the fear of making the wrong choice either way. I’m terrified of losing the man I love over something that may just be an aspect of my OCD. But I am also terrified of staying in a relationship where I am never sexually satisfied. I am unable to distinguish what is real and what is just my OCD. It feels horrible to live like this.

Hey I'm really sad.. it's not even ocd i just feel really depressed... 8 month ago doctors told me that I have a chronic pain; and there's no cure for now. It can get better but it will never end. It is a pain that only women have, a problem of nerves, that make sex semi-impossible for me because it is REALLY PAINFUL. it is a thing that less that 10% of woman have. But why me?? I always wanted a life full of intimacy, and I can't have it. I hate and I can't take the fact that there are people who can do it really easily, I really envy them and I feel like I'm not worth of living anymore

I need some help. Yesterday, I was getting ready for my shower, and my friend facetimed me. I only showed my face because I wasn’t dressed right obviously. At the moment I saw nothing wrong with this because I obviously just was going to show my face. Now though I am freaking out because I feel like I did something by dirty because she is 3 years younger than me. I had no intentions of anything weird AT ALL. I am just so worried like what if I accidentally showed something. I just saw she was face timing so I picked up and of course only showed my face. I have a something really scary that is coming up and I am absolutely petrified that God is going to punish me during then because of this. I had NO bad intentions and I obviously only showed my face. I don’t know what to do. Is this POCD or am I a disgusting monster?

I really don't have best friends ocd ruins every friendship and I really feel alone and depressed

Today my partner is being very distant, and i'm really scared that he want to leave me, or that he doesn't love me anymore, maby he found someone else. He told me that he studied (i didn't ask nothing) and now he is going to work. He bearly text me back, and never call. I already been in this situation and i always kept asking for reassurances. But at the end people always broke up with me; in the exact moment and I start to think that it is just me convincing myself. I always take that as a confirmation of my doubts. So now a part of me is screaming for help. Is this intuition or is just ocd? (In other words, things tomorrow can be better If I dump my thoughts or nothing will change so it is better to run away by myself today?) Anyway I'm really proud of myself; because although everything, I didn't ask confirmations or reassurances to him! I also kept my doubts for myself (and this app) BUT I DID NOT TELL NOTHING to my boyfriend. It is the fist day that I am able to do it!

I just need to vent. So I have recently have been thinking about going back to school to get a Master's in Counseling with the end goal of becoming an OCD therapist. Becoming a therapist is something I've been thinking about for a few years now. The past few days the intrusive thoughts have been super intense. Things like "You are too old to think about going back to school. You missed your chance? Why would you even think of becoming a therapist when you are so screwed up yourself? How do you intend to pay your rent, keep food on the table, work full time, and go to school? You aren't smart enough to get a Master's and you will just end up flunking out. You know your parents won't support you in this. I had a rough night last night because I ruminated about this for about 4 hours last night. There's a part of me that wants want to try, but there's a part of me that thinks "Why bother?" I haven't made a decision one way or the other. I have really good benefits at my current job including 401k. But my current job is not something I am passionate about and is not a good fit for my personality. But its a big decision.

I left my civil services preparation (most prestigious exam of country) and will be joining a private sector job. My confidence crashed rock bottom as my OCD got triggered. Because of one guy I decided to leave preparation. But still sometimes I feel if I leave this preparation I'm going to regret my entire life. Please help me what should I do to gain back my confidence and prepare along with job? I need some advice as my doctors aren't kind to me.. they are very rude and they disconnected my call asking for money before therapy without giving me details of payment link. NOCD services aren't available in India I called them for help. Please help someone. Admins of NOCD if you all are seeing this please provide some help. I'm from India. It is not possible to pay in dollars nor can I afford much. I can pay once I start earning and I will join soon. Please help. Please. I want to build a strong career but I have a lot of confusion in my mind..my confidence is at rock bottom. I have hirsutism too and eye issues. But my OCD is making me sink. With ocd I also have depression also. I have suicidal thoughts too. I feel I'm useless and not worthy of life. That I'm wasting my parents hard earned money. Because of one guy i started repeating one thing again and again(saying one thing again and again) and I can't organize my thought well..which test series I Need to join etc..I'm in confused state of mind which never happened to me before. When I read something I find difficult to read..I understand it in 3-4 times of reading despite reading the same thing several times last year. My concentration power has declined. My emotional well being is affected. Please help me out. I need someone to listen to me and help me out. A doctor who won't judge me because ocd makes us do wrong things(sexual etc) which I personally feel I'd against my values and my family's values. At the age when I have to develop a career I'm sinking with ocd. I don't have much years to establish my career so I need help as soon as possible. Please NOCD please help me I'm from India.. I've reached out to many people and no one helped me out. Around 4-5 psychiatrists. All I got was Anti depressants and I kept sleeping and my concentration too declined. Please help. Please. I don't have any hope left. I know it's just another effort in vain. I don't want to die. I but I can't live either with a life of no dignity and confidence. Please help me. Please. Please.

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A new theme is emerging and I’m really not even sure if I actually have OCD anymore, or if it’s intuition or the universe just trying to show me. I feel like I’m losing my mind and I don’t even recognize the person I love anymore. I’m sure this question is reassurance seeking but I literally cannot find a single answer online so I have to ask: is it possible to have POCD towards your partner/loved one? Like, I’m not worried at all about me being the P, but them. It’s a theme that’s been slowly building for a few years, and is based on zero tangible evidence. There’s never been anything I’ve found that would even suggest that about them. But it’s been getting extremely bad in the last few weeks and it’s quickly becoming all I worry about. It feels like it came out of nowhere: I was triggered online by some Reddit forum about a woman finding out her husband was a P and it just snowballed from there. Tonight in particular is really bad, and I’ve already tried to call him at 2am to ask for reassurance (he obviously doesn’t know about this theme). I had an intrusive thought about the dark web (don’t ask me why, I can’t figure out where that thought came from), and I suddenly remembered him saying he had been on there once. And guess what a huge thing on the dark web is?! I tried to call and ask what he did on the dark web even though that conversation was months ago. I’m sure I asked him at the time but for the life of me, can’t remember what he said. I just know we talked about it. He obviously didn’t say anything bad or I would have remembered. At this point, I don’t even know if I have OCD. I feel like the universe is reminding me of all these things so that I put the pieces together and get rid of this awful person. I’m so scared and so upset. It feels so REAL. And if it’s not real, then I’m accusing him of the worst thing a person can do. I just want to go back to regular old ROCD 😅 that was much easier to handle

I have consumed so much different information on attraction and love and intimacy etc from places I really shouldn’t be looking and I’ve made myself extremely extremely confused to where I feel completely lost. I compulsively compare myself to things I read online to see if I feel the same way and then later I subconsciously compare those things again or get intrusive thoughts about the thing I don’t want. I may have also overly complexed certain emotions or be unintentionally exaggerating on them because I’m so desperate to figure out what they mean. This is the most real/confusing it has ever ever felt and I’m not even sure it’s ocd anymore. Has anyone else ever done this to where they feel genuinely confused and completely unsure of their feelings while also completely numb to anything positive? Almost like I’m living through my fears and seeing/feeling nothing else. I have a headache just typing this

Does anyone get an intrusive thought about someone like “if I hurt so n so” n then ur like “let me picture it to make sure it causes me distress” to reassure yourself ur not crazy? I feel like a crazy person “what if this really isnt OCD” “What if I am actually psychotic” I would never hurt anyone, or anything n the fact that I have intrusive thoughts about those particular things makes me feel insane. I feel like I’m a failure, bad mom, bad wife… 😕

Anyone with HOCD know what their core fear is?

I'm so paranoid I'm flirting with other guys at work. I don't want to be unfaithful to my partner but I can't help but play out visual intrusive thoughts / fantasies of what it would be like to be with these other people. I know realistically I don't want to be with them and I find my bf way more attractive, but I did anxious that if I have conversations with these guys I'm flritng anf being unfaithful. I don't want to confess to my boyfriend again because he's 1) tired of it 2) it makes him insecure and 3) I'm pretty sure it's just OCD thoughts because I don't want them

My daughter has OCD (13) and we are still learning about it. I know she has reassurance OCD and Just right OCD. But it is possible to be obsessed with one friend? I don't know if it's because her OCD has ruined all the peer friendships she once had- they don't want to be around her anymore and find her numerous questions very annoying. So when she does get a new friend she really really puts everything into the relationship and not in a healthy way. It's more in a possessive weird way:( Any thoughts or suggestions on how to tell her to take it down a few notches?

Anyone else with SOOCD married to the love of their life? Would love to connect with others expericing a similar situation and support one another!

I’m a 21 year old guy (21/M) who’s is straight, at least that’s what I’ve always prefer. I’ve never been in a relationship, never kissed a girl only had a couple of girl crushes back in high school, but they never went anywhere. When I was eight, I started looking at bikini models online. I did get turn on, but it felt so long ago. Several years past, when I was around 11 or 12, I’ve noticed I have been watching scenes of guys kissing online and also yaoi, and this was probably the beginning of my never ending nightmare. Later at my high school age I have been watching straight porn for some time but there were times I never finish quickly or weren’t satisfy enough, I needed more so I started watch gay porn from all kinds of categories of gay porn such as yaoi, cartoon, guys making out, furry and sometimes the aggressive type of gay porn and I could tell I was getting off to it faster than straight porn. For years and years I’ve been watching gay porn from once a week two or four times a day. I could never stop and I still can't. I’ve been getting anxiety and getting worried that, “what If I’m gay?” because I’ve been watching a lot of this porn and getting off easily, I’ve even had a couple of dreams back then doing something very homosexual like making out with a guy or sucking someone off and I didn’t like that. Sooner or later I found a certain subtype OCD called SO-OCD/HOCD online plus other things like intrusive thoughts and ERP/CBT and things. I kept thinking that what if I have SO-OCD, I mean I know I have OCD though I’m not sure if I’ve officially diagnosed. So maybe I do have a porn addiction but yet I don't know if I truly have SO-OCD, yet if I don’t then why do I sometimes cry about this and worry over and over again about this. I keep having these thoughts I don't like and when I do I have shake my head to get rid of these thoughts and say to myself in my head, “I'm not gay, I’m a guy who prefer girls.” even look back and wonder if I’ve ever did anything girly back when I was a kid. Sometimes I even worried this kind of ocd even exist. I have been seeing a therapist about this for serval months now I’ve been telling him about this even I cry really hard about it one time, and we're trying to see if we could do ERP or CBT but I’m worried it may not last long. Also I have talk to my parents about having SO-OCD one time and I started to cry about it real hard but they didn’t say once if I was in denial ever and they understand. So I guess I am asking someone’s opinion if I have SO-OCD/HOCD or I’m in denial, I just don't know anymore. All I know that I feel like I’m going insane and just can't take this shit anymore. I have no ill will to anyone who is gay or part of the LGBTQ+ community in fact I support them but I just don't want to be gay or bi at all, is just not who I want to be.(Also sorry about my awful grammar.)

I only get aroused by my intrusive thoughts has anyone got advice on this