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My therapist from BetterHelp just messaged me and told me that he can’t help me with my issues as it’s beyond his abilities. Now I can’t go to sleep. my anxiety is starting to flare up. I feel like I’m a hopeless case at this point. I don’t even know if I have ocd anymore.

Does anyone else just feel unbearably restless? Like it doesn’t matter what I do, I just feel so uncomfortable and like I’m supposed to be doing something else, but nothing is fulfilling. I can’t relax or enjoy anything, because I just feel this ridiculous urge to be doing something (what, I do not know, but something) and nothing is relieving it. I’m constantly waiting to be able to go to sleep so that I’m unconscious and the urge will go away. Or I’m waiting to eat something because that makes it go away temporarily. But I’m eating too much now because that’s basically the only thing that makes it stop. It’s not like pain in my chest like normal anxiety, it’s just an unbearable urge to find something fulfilling. It doesn’t feel like regular boredom, although I am bored. It’s like the feeling is intensified x1000. I can’t relax, I can’t even just be regular depressed anymore. I’ve had this feeling for like a week now and it’s not going away.

-Trigger warning- I feel like I have more clarity and my hocd is true. I feel like I feel aroused to boobs and enjoy it. How could I feel that if I'm a straight woman? Like if I think of sex or something I feel like I'm aroused by my boobs or the idea of another woman's. My therapist had me do an exposure where I fantasize about sex and I feel like I finally realize I like this. I feel bad because I still haven't followed her advice and I'm compulsing 😥 but this also feels true and like I have no anxiety and finally accepted it 🤦‍♀️

I have HOCD. How can I tell my girlfriend that I have doubts about whether I am gay? How can she ever feel comfortable around me knowing that I may be dating the very fundamental question about my secular identity and whether I actually am attracted to her? Wouldn’t telling her devastate her? Should I keep these hocd fears to myself forever? Is it unfair to tell her this? I have constant anxiety that maybe I don’t truly like the feeling when I kiss her and wonder “what if I don’t like it because what if I’m gay?” “What if I don’t love her?” “What if she thinks I’m gay?” “What it I’m hiding it? What if I’m repressing being gay?” “What if I’m ruining her life by misleading her?” I can’t enjoy any time with her since these fears are constantly on my mind especially when kissing her. There is no way for me to stop these mental compulsions - I have tried and cannot do it. Wouldn’t life be better off if she broke up with me so she could find a more suitable guy who wouldn’t doubt whether he loved her or was even attracted to her? There is no therapy on earth that will work to make my life better. I have tried ERP and it does not work for me in this area. Will I ruin her life if I confess to her? Will I ruin her life if I hold this back and do not tell her until much later and then cause her even more pain?

Increasingly getting anxious for an upcoming trip - how to keep myself as centered and as peaceful as possible? In less than a couple of weeks I’ll be flying out of the country to see family for 2-3 weeks with my mom and brother. Now I’m usually a person who LOVES flying - going to the airport and being on a plane and everything has always been exciting to me. Especially going to this place I just absolutely love. However, the last time I went (August 2019) is when my OCD first showed up and it came down on me HARD. Back then, about a week before my trip, I remember taking a nap and when I woke up, I had extreme anxiety. I had experienced this only once before but I recognized this fear and started to panic. It killed my appetite, couldn’t sleep, everything. During that anxiety episode, I had the intrusive thought that changed me life (the perfect storm, if you will) and thus developing OCD (specifically suicidal OCD, which sucks let me tell you). So I was back and forth over whether I should go on this trip but decided to anyways, and the whole time it was mental torture. I didn’t know what OCD was at all during this time so I constantly (and unknowingly) gave into compulsions to find relief. Also on that trip I was barely getting sleep due to anxiety and my appetite, while returning, was small. So while the trip had its moments of fun, the mental torture I went through and my body’s reaction to the anxiety was a lot. Fast forward to now. I am noticing the anxiety in my core increasing at the days pass with the trip getting closer. I do believe that the first experience was traumatic for me and now it’s time to “relive it again”. Things are different this time though with that I know it’s OCD now and I’ve also been in therapy for it since March. I’ve been doing ERP etc. But with this stress on top of me I’ve been having increased intrusive thoughts/feelings/urges and I’m trying to navigate through them on not letting myself become overwhelmed or break down or whatever. This time is different as well since not only do I still deal with the suicidal-themed OCD, but also added existential OCD and disturbing sexual/incest-like OCD. What can I do to relax and not let what happened with past events affect me as strongly? I figured I would be triggered somewhat but I don’t want it to go anywhere near overboard. I have my next therapy appointment on Thursday so gonna talk about about it with my therapist some more then. Thanks!

does anyone else feel like they have to tell their therapist EVERYTHING? like i’ve had this obsession bugging me this week and it’s about a topic i’d rather not bring up out of embarrassment but i feel like i have to tell her and if i don’t then i’ll never be able to figure it out,,,

Why has my mind done this to me ?

ocd destroyed me

This is not a way to live

I don't know what to do. I'm not going to talk about the thoughts themselves since it's reassurance so no trigger warning. I'm a 16 year old male so I'm in highschool with the pandemic and OCD my grades are doing terrible, I have a 42 in math and I feel it's just going to get worse. I have always planned on joining the Military and being a police officer. With the military me seeking any form of therepy, or medication is a instant disqualification. Even if I abandon my lifetime dream, likely hood of being hired as a police officer would be low. I'm starting to have negative side affects of stress and anxiety for so long. My hands have been shaking on occasion randomly, recently some small red marks like mosquito bites have been appearing on arms and chest. About 15 total, google apparently says it's from stress. I'm in a bad position and feel like everything has been taken from me with this. I don't know what to do. I wanted to have a job with a difference. Me going to university for say a doctor degree doesn't seem to be in the cards. I'm a shell of my former self. All I've wanted is to serve my country against all threats foreign and domestic, and to have a wife and kids. I don't see why this would happen to me. I knew everything I wanted from this god forsaken world. I've made posts here like this. But I do it again and I'm not sure what I'm expecting. Whoever reads this, thanks for taking time out of your short life to hear my troubles.

I have begun starting to hate people an I feel so angry when I see others happy because I’m struggling so much it breaks my heart that I have nothing or no one I feel so unlovable so seeing people happy makes feel resentful I can’t help it

Tomorrow at 3pm I have to watch a my video of a lesbian wedding. That's one of my ERP assignments from my therapist. I am posting this so I am somewhat accountable to actual people. I can do it. I've been to pride like 5 times I can watch a wedding. I will do it. I won't do any compulsions. 🙏🏽

I’m literally trying to fantasize about Judy Alvarez from cyberpunk and yet I can’t because I see Rei and Asuka on my fucking mind. I used to like them because I thought they were older until I realized they were 14. WHAT THE FUUCCCKKKKK

I JUST WANT TO THINK OF GIRLS MY AGE OR OLDER. CAUSE I CANT TAKE THIS SHIT ANYMORE. I FUCKING HATE MY LIFE AS IS BECAUSE OF MY HOCD AND NOW POCD TOO? FUUUUUUCCCCCKKKKKKIKK

How do I tell an intrusive thought apart from something I actually want??? When this began I used to have anxiety attacks every day for like 2 months and now I just get butterflies. I can’t tell if it’s something I don’t want anymore 😭

I cant lead a normal life with this going on. I just feel like im walking around on auto pilot 😞

So basically I feel like My boyfriend was calling me fat and stuff. Well yesterday we’re watching the Jersey shore and I looked down at my stomach because were eating like chocolate chip cookies, then I don’t know My boyfriend was just like poking out my stomach and he was laughing but he said he wasn’t laughing at my stomach he was just messing around with me. So then Hes like let me prove to you that I love your body so he’s like let me see your body(not forcing though) so he took my leggings I said no but it wasn’t stern or anything it was kind of like a whetever No, and then I got up and let them take my shirt off. And then after tht I felt uncomfortable and my brian is like “omg is this rape” and stuff like tht. And cried and got upset because he said he didn’t mean to hurt me was trying to prove a point but in my head I don’t know which turned into this like thing

TMI So I'm on my period rn and idk why but my hocd has been extremely intense. My false attraction is going out of hand and it doesn't even feel like false attraction. I'm literally liking all the sexual thoughts I have and that freaks me out! I just want to like men and I can't deal with having sexual thoughts about women anymore. At this moment I don't even know if I have hocd anymore. Maybe I am what I fear of being:(

So I need too talk too someone about a situation.

First, let me preface this with that I am not seeking reassurance with this post. I just need to put it out into the ether. I’ve had OCD in one form or another my entire life. Only last June it morphed into rOCD really bad and I had a nervous breakdown. With all the stress that I am under not only as a teacher during COVID, but a mother of two young children, I’ve been spiking like crazy. Everything my husband does annoys me. He is dealing with his own mental health issues but self medicated daily with booze and pot. He has just started seeing a virtual therapist. My sex drive is at an all time low and when I’m spiking I don’t even want to be touched. He has worked really hard in a short amount of time to be supportive and understanding of my triggers, but sometimes his human side comes out and he makes me feel bad about my OCD. “I just want to have sex with my wife. You don’t love me anymore, I disgust you.” Which of course makes me spike even more. I know avoiding sex is part of my compulsions but I’m just so mentally, emotionally, and physically taxed that sex is the furthest thing from my mind. He, at times, can be cruel and spiteful and almost give me the silent treatment the next day after he’s asked for sex and I’ve said no. I just don’t know what to do. I’m also on an SSRI which could be affecting my libido. I know it’s not fair to him at all and any normal person would be frustrated by me. Any ideas on how to quell the rage and resentment that he has against me is greatly appreciated.