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How did it all start for you guys? I see a lot of people scared of the possibility of being bisexual but I think that possibility depends on how you got it and what your worries actually are. I think a lot of people also come out as bi to nullify it, I even considered it extensively but I never felt like I fit in with it, how can I be bi if I don’t like men right? For me I thought I was gay for a couple days before finding out what SO OCD was. Even days after I didn’t know if it was even a real thing because people say it was homophobia or something. But I feel like it was a bit different because I was 90% convinced that I was gay just by precedent. I was in distress and I would go to the bathroom at work and hold in my tears, I didn’t wanna cry cause I felt that that would be me accepting it. It was a really confusing time and now that I’m a bit more sure in my sexuality I still get annoying thoughts. I saw that people in denial are classified as people who are just hiding the fact that they are gay from other people and that became one of the the thoughts in my head after reading that, I don’t worry about it while talking to family but everytime any topic regarding sexuality comes up I get pretty uncomfortable, not because I feel like I’m hiding something it’s just I feel like I don’t really want anything to do with the topic anymore, I am not a social person, I have social anxiety but I always had crushes on girls. Hell I even have a crush on a girl right now and that was enough for me. There’s one thing though. Not that convinces me that I’m homosexual but one that makes me wonder if I’m asexual or lack a preference of anyone. I always wanted to have a kid but in my mind I never imagined raising a kid with someone else. I always imagined it just me and the kid going about life, I even looked up solo adoption when I was 17. But there were also scenarios where I imagined myself completely alone, I constantly think that if I were in a relationship or have a kid then that would completely stop my life in its tracks, it prevent me from moving forward. Even so I still identify more with being straight because I’m the end of the day because I am sexually attracted to women and I try to put on my best look for all the girls I’m ever around.

Its like i can think of other girls and guys together and be like “awwww i want that” but then when i think of myself with a guy it feels like i dont want it and i get like a wave of disgust and it makes me so sad :( And then with girls my heart rate literally spikes and i freak out that i want that when i dont, but that i’ll like it more than a guy and it feels like i would and im just so so scared:( omg even rn typing this it feels real:( Anyone else experience this??

Hi all, First time posting on here but wanted some insight to see if anyone has experienced this themselves before. So, for starters, I have not be medically diagnosed with OCD. However, I had experienced intrusive thoughts pertaining to POCD and HOCD in the past 3 weeks. As a result of that, I have learned what is could possibly be- me suffering from OCD. Not only have I been on/off coping with my intrusive thoughts about those themes, I have also been obsessing over what OCD actually is. I have been fixated on the disorder and the word “impulses” and “urges?” Can OCD make someone do something even when they believe they can distinguish between good and bad? I don’t know if this is making sense, but I have gone through periods of not feeling like I know myself or my true character because of my capability to have these thoughts. Sometimes, I even watch movies, with obvious fiction events, and I sometimes have thoughts about me commuting *insert crime. Has anyone else had a similar experience? Any suggestions? Disclaimer: I have not done any type of therapy.

Hello all, I was diagnosed with OCD in 2012 while I was pregnant, at first the therapist/Drs I was seeing made me feel like I was losing my mind and totally had judgmental reactions, I’ve been on and off medication during my OCD journey, I currently see a psychiatrist and recently decided to go back on medication due to how severe my intrusive thoughts have gotten. Of course I question if my thoughts/ideas lately are even related to my OCD diagnosis, I’m struggling more due to stress I can’t avoid unfortunately. I’m wrapped up in my head with ideas or scenarios that feel desired in my head. I’ve never had OCD manifest in a way it currently has.. It’s taken part of my personality and is using it against me on this “theme”. I hope there’s hope to live life without worrying if these scary thoughts/ideas are truly who I am or what I desire.

now why is it that whenever i try imagining scenarios with women, not even sex just cuddling and stuff, i imagine myself happy and liking it, and there's no anxiety. like what if i really want it? what if it's true? i can't even tell if i want it or not anymore. is this even hocd at this point? someone please reply it feels like i want it :(

Im crying rn and my head is telling me its because im gay and trying to force myself to be straight, and that thought makes me puke and i just wanna cry and scream and i hate this so much and it feels so real rn

I have these intrusive thoughts that I know are morally wrong. The thoughts say that I want for a certain bad to happen to someone. Such as rape. I know that I do not hope or wish such a thing on anyone, but it feels like my mind is trying to force me to agree with hoping or wishing whatever bad thing on a specific person. After the thoughts have been there for a while, I feel ashamed and feel like a psycho.

Does anyone else feel almost constantly on edge around your partner and not want to have sex even though you know they are amazing? I think I am still going back and forth between believing that I have rOCD and bring able to recognise that this is a symptom. But how can a relationship last if you don't want to have sex?

I dont think i can continue no more, i feel disgusted With myself, ever since i came back from vacation i couldnt stop thinking if i did someone to some kids in that hotel. And then after that me and my family went and visit another family that they knew and there was a child there and Im scared that i did something to him to, TWO CHILDREN. I cant wake up everyday anymore, its hard cause i HAVE TO BE 100 PERCENT SURE NOTHING HAPPENED, and then what if i did something to my grandfather. AND THEN When we came back home to Norway i was scared i was gonna do something to my sister while everyone was asleep, so the next day i asked my mom did i wake up in the middle of the night or something and she said no, i asked her because she hears everything and wakes up as soon as she hears someone walk. And im scared i did something to my sister yesterday too. I cant live like This anymore. If i did those things i dont deserve hapiness. I am for real i have to commit suicide. People can tell me how much as they want that it didnt happen but HOW CAN THEY BE SO SURE. Im scared, im worried. Imagine if i didnt go to that trip at all. I knew things were going to Get Worse. Im scared i will do something to my sister later too (everyone is asleep) i Get so paranoid its like what if i did something to someone 1 MINUTE AGO, HOW CAN SOMEONE FORGET IF THEY HURT SOMEONE OR NOT 1 MINUTE AGO.

i literally cant take this anymore it's too much

Does anyone else get triggered by people doing things you think are wrong but they think are normal? (I already posted this once but there were a couple typos and it was confusing)

I think I’m in denial. this thing I do is too on the nose. Since my HOCD got bad again, I’ve done this thing. Sometimes, when I’m talking to my friends about sex/masturbation, I’ll exaggerate about my attraction to men. For example, I’ll say that I can get off just looking at a man fully clothed. This seems like something someone who is trying to convince THEMSELVES that they like men would do. I have no idea why I do this. I’m really worried people think I’m gay, so maybe this is just a compulsion? Is this a compulsion or a denial behavior?

I watched porn and i feel guilty. My brain is telling me that they could have been 18 on the dot but i still watched it bc i felt like my brain was sabotaging me. I clicked on videos with mature audiences but it tells me you scrolled through young pornstars. I feel disgusted and depressed. I honestly don’t care about living sometimes.

Im giving up! If im gay, im gay. I dont wanna be but im so over thinking about this ALL THE DAMN TIME Like imma go crazy

I got fucking backfired today about an exposure I did a few days ago. I'm afraid to be constantly listened to through my camera smartphone. So in order to prove to myself that's bullshit I feel the URGE to pop the camera up and say awful things toward myself or people I care about, but once I do it I feel so bad I'm so scared someone could hurt the people I mentioned it's awful no one not experiencing OCD could understand the triggers, the inner fight between your soul and your heart. Anyway, a few days ago I decided to say awful things and this time it was my mother who was related to my saying. At first it felt good but has anyone already made a compulsion, felt better but then did a compulsion as if this one was the one you literally CROSSED the line. It often happens to me but each time I feel like I crossed the line I know I go in hell for several days before getting away of this place. I'm gonna say awful things using my camera now (even tho again I don't record anything I just faint to make a video sayings horrible stuff. What should I do? Am I right to expose myself or is it a bad thing to me it's good because I have to face my fear and I'm not afraid to do it but the guilt is fierce man. Hope I could have some advice from people who understand this shitty ocd stuff. Thanks for having read it hop yall get better soon 🙋‍♂️.

I’m freaking out so bad I have so so so many struggles and fears around intimacy with my boyfriend that it truly feels like I don’t want to have sex with him but I do I want to so badly and I want to enjoy things with him so much. But yet I can only enjoy it when I really really focus on it so doesn’t that mean I’m forcing it??? Like if I just try to do it without thinking about everything I won’t be able to enjoy it so does that mean I’ll never be able to truly let go of that bc I don’t actually enjoy it? I don’t want to have sex with a girl not at all and I don’t want anyone else to be with my partner like that but me. So why can’t I enjoy it freely? Like if I don’t focus on it I won’t even want to. I hate myself , I feel like a monster and like there’s something wrong with me.

BIG tw in advance for really gross intrusive thoughts. i feel horrible, i keep thinking bad stuff and feeling like i’m gonna act on it. i don’t feel scared or anything anymore even though after i feel guilty as hell cause i can’t tell if it was me or just ocd. i was just watching my brother and i had this thought “ if i did something bad to him no one would know “ and i focused on it on purpose for erp reasons but then i thought about doing something inappropriate to him and i genuinely felt like i was gonna do it / i wanted to do it even more so because i knew it was bad but like this doesn’t match with my morales at all. i don’t think i can handle this any longer i can’t tell of this is an ocd urge or not anymore i feel like it isn’t and it makes me feel disgusting i want to cry

I’ve struggled with disorderly eating in the past (I.e. avoiding meals, feeling guilty about eating, becoming very thin, etc). Luckily I was able to get it under control, and I’m okay now. It’s hot, and my family are in bad moods because of the heat. I had my lunch at 12, and it’s like quarter to 6 as I write this. I’ve not snacked, and I literally had a piece of toast for my lunch, and no breakfast. I asked my family when they were going to make dinner, and my mum scowled at me and was like, ‘how are you hungry?’… I was shocked and said that I’ve literally only ate a piece of toast, and I said that was nearly 6 hours ago, and she just looks at me and goes, ‘Why does everything have to be on a timeline with you?’ I don’t ever talk about ‘times’, so she’s clearly just trying to find something to justify why she’s so angry for no reason. Anyway, I know this is irrational but I can feel some of my old thoughts and feelings sneaking in…, like, ‘maybe you shouldn’t be hungry’, ‘maybe you’ve gained weight, that’s why she’s saying that’, etc. I don’t know… can someone give me some advice?

Hi, My name is stephen and hope you don’t mind me reaching out. This is my sons account and using this to gather support for my wife and I. My son has been sectioned for trying to take his own life twice in the last 7 days which is extremely heartbreaking for is My wife and I have seen my son suffer for over 2 years with OCD of a child nature and homosexual nature and we have no idea what to do as a family going forward. We have seen mutilple therapist over the years who have indicated to us as a family he suffers from severe OCD and is not a pedophile or Gay. He mentioned to Julie and i he was coming onto this application software to obtain help but seems it’s been the ultimate cause of his mental health. He has reported back to us on daily basis that you can have Homosexual obsessions and realise you are Gay and also Child obsessions and realise you are pedophile. This is where it leaves my wife and I in a difficult situation as I have attended multiple therapy sessions with my son and documented the dialogue from councillors in private conversations saying this isn’t true. So I ask why has my son deteriorated so much from this application? And is this true? Kind regards.

I am really afraid I am going to do bad things so people will treat me more like an adult 😭 I keep getting all these intrusive thoughts about it and I don't know what to do bc they feel so real