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Been suffering with HOCD as my dominant theme for over a year, one of the most difficult things to deal with is when I'm around others, I constantly have these intrusive thoughts pop up "You're gay" "just tell them you're gay" "tell them, they will understand" "you're just in denial". Also, at times, i get this incrediblely strong urge to just scream "I'm gay", it feels extremely overwhelming and unbearable. It's extremely difficult and exhausting, in general before OCD, I've always known I'm Bi-Sexual and I've accepted that however I've never been sexual with anyone from the Same Sex, but I know i never exclusively gay, all of a sudden OCD is convincing me I'm in denial. Anyone else suffer the same or similar symptoms?

I said something stupid and insensitive earlier. I didn’t mean to offend but realized it came off that way. Now I’m feeling guilty and ashamed of myself. I’m sorry.

i’m kinda freaking out right now . i think i have hocd but still not sure. it makes no sense , the thought that i was bi just came out of nowhere and i have been straight my whole life. i keep getting these thoughts that i want to date a girl and stuff like that and it doesn’t make me happy. the thoughts feel soooooo real and it scares me. now i just believe i’m bi and i hate it so much. i want to go back to my normal self. can anyone help!!?

Hey everyone!! So I’ve been diagnosed with moderate ocd. Sometimes when a new symptom arises with my ocd, I don’t how to combat it. Since I have ocd, sometimes I get scared that it might mean somethings else. So basically I have this weird thing where I need to pull my hair or rip it out. I thought it was trichotillomania but I’m not sure. I was gonna talk about it in therapy today but I forgot. When this happens I usually get a feeling in my scalp where I have to pull or rip my hair out to feel better. It is weird. Sometimes I don’t need to pull my hair out, I can get that satisfaction just from tugging of it and feeling the hair being tugged . The feeling of needing to pull my hair even shows up no only on my scalp but my shoulder muscle and I have to pull my hair or stretch it to feel better. I’m not sure if it is Tourette’s. Can someone let me know if they have had this or similar to it. What if so what is it? Is it just plain ocd. Help!!

Someone who has HOCD, can share your story with me?? I'm new in the app.

Why does my OCD feel so real? One minute I’m so in love with my boyfriend then the next I fear I’m falling out of love and that I’m meant to be with someone else. I feel so numb and empty I just feel emotionless once the anxiety fades away. It actually feels as if my thoughts are true how can I just feel like me again

i’m terrified i’ll become a schizophrenic one day. it’s one of my biggest fears.

A few months back I saw a picture of a kid in a swimming costume on the beach but the photo was taken from the back of the kid and I saw it but because of my intrusive thoughts I don’t like to look Past the hip area because it triggers me to have horrible thoughts and I thought no I’m not my thoughts so I clicked back on to it and looked past the hips area but it’s now making me think I’m a horrible person I shouldn’t of looked where I did and it’s just making me feel so horrible but I was just trying to prove to my ocd brain that if I look at a photo and I just happen to see that area that it didn’t mean anything I’m now stuck

The more I come here, the more I realize that ocd is a scary, weird, f*ed up illness, so I don’t get how organized people claim to have ocd or think it’s a cute or funny quirk. If they only knew how miserable life can be sometimes when you have to deal with an inner voice who’s constantly trying to ruin everything, and constantly making you feel scared to even wake up in the morning or go to sleep at night..

I'm not a smart man Im slow every year in school I would always have a fresh face and feel new to things over the summer I knew nothing of body language and I was introduced to it in a very scary way my dad passed my mom's cousin was a pastor we used to go to his church he found out my dad had passed on and tried to comfort us and talked to us didn't help me scared the crap out of me my siblings would joke on him plus we nicknamed him fat John he was a hefty man and in the conversations the way he was talking to us about his weight and what people call him he dropped a huge hint and other stuff I forgot I'm freaking out how how does he know that that's a secret he kept on doing this dropping hints I thought hey how is he doing this it's like he's reading my mind and I'm scared I'm paranoid worrying if people could read my mind Im terrible at body language I didn't know you could do that again slow kid every time I see people I think they can read my mind and in noticing people can read my mind I can't cover it up again slow kid and these are personal things really embarrassing things people can see things I can tell I'm thinking of something some guy can tell cause their talking about the stuff it's similar to me it's no coincidence I see this alot I can't do anything to stop it cover it up forget about and again slow kid I need help show me to be calm keep a straight face stop panicing please I'm on my knees begging someone please help me

This horrible disorder never ends if you keep fighting, it destroys you mentally and physically, till there's nothing left but obsessions and intrusive thoughts. No sleep, no appetite, no will to live. Controlling your life till life isn't worth it anymore. I've been suffering with OCD (mainly Pure O) for many years now and it is a giant monster always finding cracks to renew and feeds on the slightest doubt, it's a never ending rabbit hole of darkness, if you fight it. There is no answer nor reassurance nor pills to stop the horrible doubts and fears, you can't out think it or try to stop thinking it, just try your best to realise that it is nothing to do with you as a person, you are completely FREE from the horrible thoughts and urges your mind sends you, it's the mind you must seperate the two. Acceptance of uncertainty, trusting in life and realising that thoughts can't be stopped nor controlled nor deleted nor escaped is the way to overcome.

yesterday I was able to masturbate and ignore my intrusive thoughts which was amazing!! felt like a big fuck you to my intrusive thoughts. my sex life is getting way better and I've been opening up to having more sex with my bf again.

So strange and personal question but has any female here with HOCD ever watched Lesbian porn or actively looked at sexual pictures of women and been aroused, but identify as straight. Because I did that when I was young but when I did it (it was only for a month or two) I identified as straight and continued to like boys and as a kid I never had the thought I was gay because I never had a crush on a girl. But now that my HOCD started in summer it’s been coming back to haunt me. The part that worry’s me is that when I was little I actively searched out these pictures. It wasn’t exactly like things that were meant to arouse me, but it did at times. I just found them interesting and actively looked at them. It wasn’t an addiction but it wasn’t an accident. Does this mean I’m gay? I rlly hop it doesn’t and it’s just HOCD. I just can’t let go of this it makes my HOCD crazy...

Can OCD cause false memories ? I’ve seen something about it on here before but didn’t have time to read it. I’m really concerned because about 2 days ago, I was reading and read the word ‘kissing’ and then all of a sudden i got this thought in my head (like how OCD usually randomly sets off a trigger) and the thought is so horrible (I suffer with POCD) and I was like omg I know what it’s like to kiss a child (like, it felt like I genuinely remembered how it felt). And I started to panic so much thinking when have a I done that. These thoughts tend to involve my nephews because they’re really young, from ages 1-6, so my POCD often gives me intrusive thoughts about them. But this thought felt so real to the point where I keep thinking it’s actually happened. I did have a dream the other day that had my nephew in and it was so inappropriate and made me feel sick and guilty, so maybe this is where the false memory has come from. And I was like omg what if I’ve kissed him. And then I got really upset even though I know I haven’t because I would never do that ever and it makes me feel sick. So then the thought proceeded to omg you must’ve kissed your brother. And then the thoughts became so real all of a sudden and I started to panic so much ! I feel like this has genuinely happened when I was little (obviously not knowing that what I was doing was wrong) but it’s making me feel so sick and I don’t even know if it actually happened or not !! I’m so stressed having this on my mind and not even knowing. And what makes it worse is that the thought/ memory is like not just a kiss, it’s like a proper kiss and I feel sick !! But I don’t even know if it happened !!! How does the mind do This ?! And what makes it worse is that I remember when I was little and I was playing with my younger brother and we were tickling each other, and then I said I wanted to show him something that would tickle, and I started to tickle him (down there) and then it was like massaging it for a few seconds because I’d done it to myself so thought it was okay. I was only little so obviously didn’t know what I was doing and I told my mum about it ages ago because I felt awful and horrible. But now this thought that this kissing thing actually happened, I don’t even know what to do! I feel so guilty and sick and the fact that I can’t tell if it’s real or not is frustrating me so much ! Can this kissing thing be a false memory ? I feel like a terrible person !

Trigger warning : New record. I had a panic attack, a meltdown and nausea in the bathroom because I felt I was covered in mouse poop, I think I swallowed one and there was a smear by chocolate which I can’t stop thinking it’s poo. Then had an accident. With all that, cleaning and showering, I was in the bathroom for 9hours. And my cleaning isn’t even done. It’s 5:25am and I’m exhausted. Because I showered for three hours, when I got out the floor was covered in water but somehow I can’t stop thinking it’s toilet water.

For anyone who has OCD related disorders like dermatillamania or trichotillamania (I'm sreally sorry if I'm butchering those names) what is it like?

PLEASE READ I NEED HELP! please help me! I’m a 16 year old girl, and Okay I don’t wanna sound crazy but I feel insane. Okay so I have constant anxiety everyday and frequent panic attacks. It’s terrible going to sleep because I wake up a bunch of times during the night and I have vivid short dreams and it makes reality feel like a dream as well. I get thoughts when I’m out in public like “what if I’m not actually here right now” or if I’m talking to someone I get the fear that what if that persons not actually there... it causes anxiety and I get scared at the fact that part of me believes the thoughts... reality feels so fake and I have existential intrusive thoughts all day long!! I feel depressed all the time and I can’t get out of this vicious mindset. I’m so paranoid all the time and I’m SO emotional and cry all the time. I used to be sooo happy but I can’t silence the thoughts that turn into ridiculous scenarios in my head. I’m scared apart of me is comfortable like this... and it feels like I’m not gonna be able to get happy again. It’s reality not feeling real, the feeling like I’m dreaming, the fear of going insane, fear of drugs, fear of schizophrenia and existential thoughts that scare me the most. anyone else feel like this? I feel so alone ?

do today at school we were doing this project and i was in a group with this lesbian and there’s nothing wrong with that but for some reason i cant stop thinking about it. i’m scared people were judging me and thinking i was a lesbian. i really hope this is hocd but still not sure. someone pls help!!!!

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for just under 3 years and we are so happy, BUT he has had a really rough gonof things in life, his entire family is abusive and he lives with his abusive family, his mom is severely depressed and he has to take care of her. He hasn’t been able to keep a job while we’ve been dating because of it. He tried but he ended up having severe panic attacks and quitting because of everything going on, his uncle died and his grandma is dying and he has started drinking. He is getting help, from therapy, doctors etc, he lives off of ODSP at the moment and is getting an apartment so he can get out of the abusive situation. I understand all of this as I’ve lived through it with him and I think he is so strong. And I can really see that he’s trying. But my mother isn’t. All she every talks about is how he’s a nice guy. But he’s shit and I should dump him. That’s not how I feel AT ALL but any time she says that stuff it sends me into a spiral. I obsess over it and I hate it. He’s doing so well and he’s trying so hard, he wants to get a job and go to achool for photography, and I LOVE HIM I’m so proud of him for taking care of his mother even though she is so awful. I just wish my mother saw what I did

Can anyone with harm ocd explain their symptoms and what the daily struggles are like?