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I feel like I'm constantly thinking about the same sex. Feeling in my backside is driving me nuts 😒. And I've met this girl I like and I feel guilty as hell because I feel like I'm hiding something. I really like her but how can carry this on if I'm having these thoughts. I had these thoughts before a met her. Please help someone 😢

I’m having some compulsion looking into something my dumb brain does. Sometimes when I think of my family my brain tells me something negative about them and I don’t like it. I’ll think “that’s mean and I don’t believe that”. But these thoughts bother me because it’s like another person in my brain is saying it though I know it’s my mind. Are these intrusive thoughts or something else.

What are your wins/win recently? Also what is something you are grateful for in your ocd journey? My win is starting trauma therapy finally. Im very nervous but I know it will be beneficial. As for what Im grateful for with my ocd journey, its the love and support of my husband who has stuck by me for almost 20 years so far through all my diificult battles with ocd. I hope this post inspires people and gives them hope! It does get better! I also suffer from bipolar, anxiety and ptsd, too and it is possible to live a good life with multiple mental issues.

I’m just looking for some advice regarding sexual orientation OCD… I have always been straight but in high school I would sometimes question if I was bisexual. I would always say that if I was, I wouldn’t ever date a woman just cuz I can’t see myself with one romantically, but in a sexual sense, maybe. (TMI: When I was way younger, I discovered lesbian 🌽 and I would usually watch that, I don’t anymore but I would prefer watching that mainly cuz of the moans, sorry this is tmi) but all in all, I was open to the thought of me being bisexual, if I ever turned out to be. After high school (for context: I’m a college junior), I never really thought about my sexuality that much until I got a boyfriend. I’ve been with him for almost two years, and sometimes I’ll get intrusive thoughts that I could like women. (Like for example: Chappell roan is a trigger for me just because I love her as an artist, and she’s pretty. I understand that it’s normal to think other women are attractive and if they have a nice body, and it doesn’t necessarily mean I like women, but sometimes I get scared.) I am not diagnosed with OCD, but I suspect I have it, especially ROCD, so I already get intrusive thoughts about my relationship, and now it’s targeting my sexuality, which worries me. It doesn’t worry me that my family wouldn’t support me and it doesn’t worry me that my boyfriend wouldn’t support me, it’s mainly the fact that if I were to be bisexual, I would feel so incredibly guilty. I know that bisexuality is liking both men and women, but a part of me would just feel guilt towards my boyfriend. Just guilt about how I also like women. And it’s not even like I’d break up with him to pursue women if I was bisexual, I just feel a sense of guilt. I guess I feel this way partially cuz I think he wouldn’t understand. He’s not homophobic, but I just don’t think he’d understand how I’d just suddenly be part gay. I know he’d support me, but in a way I feel like I’m cheating on him if I liked women. Idk how to describe it, but I just need advice because this intrusive thoughts really freak me out.

Hey everyone, I’ve really been struggling today with avoidance and compulsions, and it’s thrown me off. Out of nowhere, after being pretty much compulsion-free for the last 5 months, these feelings have come rushing back. I don’t know why this is happening, but it’s been a tough day, and I’m really feeling it. I’d love some support or advice if anyone could help. Earlier, I tried to work through it by journaling. I wrote down all my thoughts and feelings, hoping it would help clear my mind. But then, this fear hit me out of nowhere—I got scared that I might have written something “bad” in my journal. The urge was so strong that I ended up tearing out the pages. It’s like I couldn’t even trust myself with my own thoughts. Then, I tried to distract myself by watching a TV show. But whenever I reach a certain scene in the episode I’m on, I start feeling like I wasn’t paying enough attention to it or that somehow, in that moment, I did something wrong. So, I rewind it back to the beginning to check, and this has happened over and over today. It’s reached the point where I’m now afraid to even keep watching the show. It’s been a tough day trying to make sense of all this. If anyone has been through something similar or has any advice on how to manage these moments, I’d really appreciate hearing from you. I’m feeling a bit lost right now and could use some support. Thank you for reading. ❤️

I really cannot grasp this feeling/sensation. Even though I’ve never actually passed out it feels like I’m going to all the time. And it’s only when I’m in public and around people. Like I’ve never felt lightheaded at home unless I’m sick. So i know it’s from anxiety but i just can’t shake it because it feels so real. And then after the lightheaded feeling goes away my heart just starts pounding and i start shaking because im at that point freaking out. I know I’ve posted about this before but i just really don’t know how to get over it. This is the scariest symptom I’ve experienced this far because it feels the realest. Anyone else feel this way and what did you do to overcome it?

Something came up on my fyp on tiktok. The possibility of asteroid Apophis hitting the earth in 2029 and 2036. NASA assured it wouldn’t hit instead coming between the moon and earth. The comments are all fear mongering. They say you can’t trust NASA and they’d have a reason to lie to the common folk. If it was about anything else i’d wave it away because I don’t give sceptics the time of day but this is bothering me severely. I’ve been staring at a wall for the past hour absolutely terrified and trying my best not to reassure myself. This is horrible for me, because images of my own death and that of the world keep relentlessly attacking my psyche. I wish i could just wave this off but it’s sticking to me terribly.

My problem is wrong coding, and perception. My subconscious mind get into wrong perception. I cannot calm my amygdala. Before this I can easily calm my mind. But I can not do it anymore. I do not know what to do. I am thinking of how to die everyday please help me

i’ve made posts in the past regarding the same struggles and i haven’t found any relief. school has started and im managing my grades well enough; but im miserable, suffocating on my thoughts day in and day out with no one to turn to and nothing to numb the pain. my ocd is been preventing me from sleeping and i cant stop the thoughts. i’ve been on medications and tried different types of therapies but i feel so stuck. time is just dragging me along for the ride but i cant stop thinking about everything bad that has ever happened to me. i cant stop the intrusive thoughts. my fingers are raw from the compulsions and i genuinely dont know what to do anymore. i have no one and nothing; does anyone have any advice to dig yourself out of quicksand? how to return to the person you used to be and leave all of the struggles behind? to even get over it all?

I was pushing my daughters stroller and tried awkwardly standing far away and reaching with one arm to push the stroller so i wouldnt brush up or have the stroller or her hit my lap but as i started walking where we needed to go i got groinals. I kept leaning away and pushing the stroller walking and saying compulsively “no no no” in my head. Ocd makes me feel guilty did i do anything like if i had groinals i shouldve stopped but i cant let it impinge my daily tasks

Im 18 and Ive had POCD since i was 16. I think ive become very good about dealing with it. Recently ive been able to accept the uncertainty and ive felt almost normal. Me and my friends were playing gartic phone which is a game where someone writes a sentence and you draw an image based off the sentence. It can be really funny because you draw something really dumb. Obviously sometimes the thing is sexual and thats why its funny. But they started going way too far with it and getting references from rule 34 and sending them. I got really uncomfortable and was about to leave then one of them sent some really weird looking drawing i didnt really see properly but it was some weird young looking cartoon drawing. I just left all their group chats and i genuinely dont think i can be friends with them anymore. It goes way back and ive had talking threapy about my ocd before and gotten better. My reaction to this is way less bad than it wouldve been a few years ago, but still now i feel really stressed again. I almost feel like just blocking all them and never speaking to them again irl. What should i do. I dont know who i can talk to about this other than another one of my friends who wasnt playing.

Suffering from POCD and it's really making me considering not being here anymore. This isn't who I am and I don't understand why this is happening to me. Can someone give me some advice or support. Thank you...

Haven’t posted in awhile , I was just curious anyone who has gone through the theme suicidal ocd , who here has overcame it ? My mind plays tricks on me and sometimes I feel like throwing in the towel and then that freaks me out . Anyone here have any advice on how to overcome this theme ? I haven’t been diagnosed with OCD but I know I have bad anxiety and am constantly worrying about my health . Prior to this I was freaked out I was gonna die from a heart attack and die in my sleep and then randomly this image popped into my head and then now it’s been stuck on “s” thoughts . I know anxiety can cause intrusive thoughts too . So anyone have any positive feedback would be greatly appreciated to over come this quicker ❤️‍🩹

So for the past month I have been dealing with the theme of going into a psychosis/or becoming schizophrenic. Having thoughts like is this really my reality? I am really here? I’m I just hallucinating what I want to see and did something horrible? Very scary thoughts. I’ve also been dealing with harm intrusive towards myself and towards my family. Recently this week I’ve developed a new theme of fearing not being able to sleep and going crazy from not being able to sleep. I lay there at night waiting to fall asleep and no matter how tired I was all day sleep doesn’t come. And then when I actually get some hours of sleep I question if I really slept and didn’t just hallucinate sleep. Which is very ridiculous I know. I’m just really scared and feel so helpless right now. I haven’t been diagnosed for OCD but I’m positive it’s what I have. I’m just so tired and feel like crying all the time. Sleep was the one thing I had to escape from all this crap and now that has gotten taken away from me as well. I just want my life back. Yesterday my family came over and for once I was able to forget about the thoughts for the time they were here and it felt so nice. I’m trying so hard to be okay for my family but I’m not. Im drowning on the inside and I just want to breathe. I can’t afford therapy right now and I have been prescribed sertraline 25mg for my anxiety but I’m to scared to take it. If anyone can relate or give me advice it would be greatly appreciated. I know reassurance is not what I should be getting but I’m just so scared.

Why do I keep having these thoughts? And then it’s like if I don’t care about the thought then I must want it to be true. It’s like if I don’t have anxiety over it then I’m like “oh god does that mean that I’m really going to harm myself” this is so debilitating. I just want to stop thinking and go back to how it was before all this started. Prior to the harm ocd thoughts I was terrified of dying. All I can think about now is su*c*dal ocd. It never goes away. I’m sitting on my couch and I just have the most uncomfortable feeling and a million thoughts going through my head. I’ve been dealing with this for 2 months now. Mine is a little different I feel like than the traditional hard ocd bc I’m not scared to be around knives and stuff so that makes me feel like is it actually real ideation since I’m not scared to be around stuff that could harm me?

Hi everyone. I already went to the psych ward last month for the first time for four days for reasons unrelated to OCD. Now, I’m having my first ever major OCD episode/flareup/? and if you recognize me you already know my issue. I’m having weird sexual thoughts about my parents. Not really any way to sugarcoat it. Also with some harm OCD sprinkled in. I’m currently in a 6 day per week outpatient program and I’m considering telling them I’m really losing my mind. They might drug me up, throw me in inpatient again (have no idea how helpful that would be lol) and I just don’t see a positive future for me. Does anyone have any words of encouragement, or could possibly connect with me? This might be dramatic, but on top of my anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem, this might be too much for me. Genuinely.

Or “I don’t want to be here anymore?” Had been struggling w suicidal ocd and now wondering if this is it nothing a bit or if it’s my own thoughts. I guess it’s ocd vibes or I wouldn’t be typing this here that I’m concerned lol. It’s just freaky

I was exposed to pornography at a young age and it messed me up pretty badly. I don't even know how it really happened, I just do happened to find it one day. I didn't realize all of the damage it was doing to me and my life until I became an adult. It's still bothering me a lot and there were still moments where I couldn't stop my behaviors even if I wanted to. I've hurt myself because of my sex addiction and I've been trying to stop doing this to myself for a long time now. There are some harm related issues the I still see and remember and it makes me really upset. I just ended up tearing up because I just wish this didn't have to happen. I just wish I didn't get so hooked on this. I just wish someone could have told me what I was getting into at that age. I'm always anxious, worried about my health, and concerned about my addiction and if it will ever go away. I just want to go back to a time where I didn't have to worry about this along with OCD. This is why I feel like my adult life isn't going too well: It's always because of these problems that I've been dealing with for years. Recently, I've been able to stop because I didn't want my sleep and anxiety to be affected, but they still bother me in the form of thoughts and mess me up. I just regret so many things that I can remember. The things I've watched, the things I've done to myself, the things I've done to other people. I try to tell myself that I should just be kind to myself and do my best to move past this. It can work but there are days like this where I just can't shake the pain. I just know now that I didn't deserve that and that I deserved better. Same goes for everyone that goes through this too. I just long for how things used to be because I'm not exactly happy with how things are now. I want to just accept that I didn't know better and I was curious and did my best to just get through the times, but there are days where I just can't. I guess it's because all of this stuff still exists in my life today. I just want to find a way to beat it. I envision the life I want for myself and it's not this. It's not holding myself back to this addiction and it's definitely not treating myself in a way that says I don't deserve that. I guess what hurts me so much about this is that I never thought I would have this kind of problem in my life. I thought I was understanding to not be so caught up in problematic fields like this. Pornography, relationships, and sex overall was never something I was really talked to about. It just seemed like stuff I figured out the best I could at the time. I don't think I really have relationships figured out still because I just don't have experience with it all.

Hello, I have been having Harm OCD episodes where I hit a bump in the road or drive past someone, or even zone out when driving and worry I hit someone by accident. Has anyone else dealt with this or has any suggestions to deal with this? Thank you!

I just wanted to post here. I am currently experiencing urges to not hurt myself and my boyfriend is dealing with a family emergency. I don't want to stress him more. The thoughts get to me it had been a year since I masturbated and i broke it last week when somethinghorrible happened and felt horrible i had a really bad addiction at 14 I would do it everyday. I am afraid to tell my partner because he also struggles with lust and i used to hurt myself i started at age 12 with anything sharp. I would even shave things. When i felt numb i would do it anywhere mostly school and home. Last time i did it i was 15 and my boyfriend took me in a date I wore shorts and it rode up my thigh then he saw the marks. He was disappointed in me and I get sad when he's upset at me because I try my best to be positive for him. Any advice? I'm just trying my best to fight the urges I've had them for 4 days straight and I threw away anything sharp piece of metal and i locked the razors away. I also locked the lighters away I used to burn.